Thank you for writing in.
I am so sorry that you are having this experience and glad that you are seeking support. No one should live in fear because of who they are, or be forced to cope with an abusive situation. If your parents are reacting negatively to your sexual orientation, remember that you are valuable despite what anyone else tells you.
We are never responsible for others’ responses to us, or to our truths. Our greatest priority is your safety. It may be useful to have a safety plan for yourself. Some things to consider in the safety plan might be:
- Do you have someone to talk to about this, like a friend, so that you don’t have to carry this alone?
- Is there a trusted adult who can be made aware of the situation?
- Is there a relative you might be able to stay if the situation is or becomes violent?
- Are you able to find healthy ways to vent frustration, like art, walking, dancing, etc.?
I wanted to share a couple resource with you too:
- Here is another question that is similar to yours: Hey Auntie, how can I come out to my homophobic dad?
- Paths Remembered offers No Cost counseling available to Indigenous 2SLGBTQ+ persons living in Oregon, Idaho, Washington, New Mexico, Texas, and North Dakota who are 15 years of age or older. For information on how to access these services, email ijeffries@npaihb.org
Remember- coping with a toxic situation is not ideal, but we want you to do whatever it takes to create safety for yourself. If the situation is or becomes violent, please reach out to someone for help. YOU are valuable.
I hope this helps.
Take care,
Auntie Manda
